Saturday, September 28, 2013

Andrew's Dance with Cancer Coming to an End

I'm Andrew's sister, Julie.

Andy (as I call him) has given both me and his partner, Tara permission to post here in his place. These are my words, not his - as he's not up to even dictating. He has other priorities with his limited strength right now, but I think he does want me to post here and on Facebook to let people know what's going on. 

He's still here in his lovely Listowel home. A nurse comes by and checks in with him. In the last two days he's started using morphine, injected through a port in his arm, which
has helped significantly in the management of his pain, and allows him to get some much-needed sleep.  Nights are still difficult, though - for both him and Tara. 

Woke up late this morning and went downstairs to find “everyone” asleep in the living room: Andy on his recliner, Tara under a blanket on the couch, Angel perched on the back of the couch, and Grace curled up on the love-seat - sun streaming in through the windows and branches of the still-green trees outside….

Still green and they’re already losing their leaves. What’s up with that? It seems a rather cruel reminder of how (extra) fast time is passing.
 
Andy gave us a welcome laugh this morning. Tara had made the difficult call to the funeral home to discuss “arrangements”.  They recommended, in the interest of the loved one’s dignity, that clothing be worn for the cremation. She asked Andy what he wanted to wear, and when he replied “Jeans” she said “Will they still fit?” (since he’s lost so much weight). He said, “It doesn’t matter; I’ll be lying down.”  Cracked us all up.
 
 Andy and "Gracie"

 


2 comments:

  1. Thanks so much for this Julie and Tara - and for all the love and support you have given Andrew during these difficult times.

    And please tell Andy (or Epster as I call my brother Andrew) that our thoughts and prayers are with him and that I am so very proud of they way he has tackled this latest challenge in his life; as always, with dignity, grace, and passion.

    There are so many reminders around me and in my head of my brother Andrew and the times we have shared over the 27 years or so that we have been friends (and more so brothers). The endless conversations about all things imaginable, the movies, the music, the tv shows...his generosity of spirit and giving and sharing is second to none, his love of life, his curiosity and passion, his deep sense of gratitude and appreciation of all things will never be forgotten...

    I love you my brother Epster.

    Until we meet on the other side - love, love and more love!

    Tony

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  2. Julie, I am so sorry to hear your brother's story. It has been too long and I didn't realize you and your family were going through such a hard time. I'm sad for you all and still remember clearly how sad it is to watch someone we love battle this most horrible disease. I am so sorry...I am here if you need anything at all. I do hope to see you whenever you are ready. I'm thinking of you and your brother who I know you love very deeply. Please take care...xxooxxoxoxox

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